Aging Gracefully

Youth doesn't last forever, but some of us want it to. I finally watched the documentary About Face: Supermodels Then and Now, and it was eye opening. Regardless of our aging society, fashion prefers the "beautiful and the damned". But like these former supermodels have discovered, eveything including your relevance fades.

About Face explores the lives of some of the world's most successful models who have mostly retired from the industry. Greats like Isabella Rossellini, Jerry Hall, Christie Brinkley, Pat Cleveland, and Carmen Dell'Orefice are just a few of the extraordinary women featured in this piece. Filmmaker Timothy Greenfield-Sanders creates a series of intimate portraits of these legends as they discuss how things were when they were top models, and also the complex relationship between beauty and aging.


When I watched the film, I began to sympathize with these women. They had come from a golden age of fashion where models were free to express themselves and dazzle us. There were no rules, so they created their own standards. The one rule that actually meant anything was that you couldn't appear to be getting older. Former model China Machado explains it best:

"It isn't that women want to stay young, it's that the whole society makes us want to stay young.

As they aged, some of the models tried to keep up with appearances and use plastic surgery to stay youthful, while others decided to accept what mother nature had in store. These models were pioneers and the fashion industry worshipped them. But mixed in with their confidence and vitality was this insecurity. These models all knew they had a shelf date whether it was for better or worse.

Even now, I am feeling what these models have endured. You get older and the camera stops liking you as much, because it's bias and unforgiving. But the life of a model doesn't have to have an expiration date. There is something quite beautiful about aging gracefully and letting the world see.

Chime in: Who do you think is at fault for our love affair with youth? Is it the fashion industry or ourselves?

Glossy Love


Photography by Taye Hansberry

Hey Mom, look at me! I am fortunate enough to be feautured in the debut issue of It's My Hair Magazine. Words cannot the describe my gratitude for this. There's actually a really funny story about how this happened.

My childhood best friend Alisha Cave was working with Selena Milbry, editor and creator of the magazine, on the first edition. This quarterly glossy is all about natural hair, so somehow my name was brought up when they were talking about well-known naturalistas. Anyway, Alisha says "Oh, yeah, I know Nikki". And that's when the plan was hatched. Next thing I know, Alisha is interviewing me for the feature.

It's kind of funny when you sit down for a formal interview with a longtime friend. Alisha and I were chatting for a while before we got to the actual questions for the piece. I had to remind myself to be professional and respond in complete sentences instead of being super relaxed and overly conversational. While many people know me as a model and blogger, to Alisha I'm just the freckle-faced little girl who used to put on at-home talent shows with her. I'm the girl she went to kindergarten and years later went to college with. Even when we've been apart, our lives have always run parellel to one another. It was great to be reunited with Alisha for this feauture.

Thanks to my dear friend Taye Hansberry for taking the awesome photos that accompany the story. We banged these out on Saturday when we both would have rather been lazy by a pool than trying to fight the light to shoot. But the beauty we produced makes it worth it. See what happens when you create with friends. It's epic.

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Illesteva sunglasses are favs of Hollywood's it crowd. Everyone from Solange and Beyonce to Alexa Chung are fans of this brand. I'm not going to lie. These babies are the kind of piece you save up for, but there's nothing wrong with treating yourself every now and again. So, do it and grab this hot commodity ASAP.

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Dear Fairy Model Mother: My Agency Is MIA!

Hello lovelies! I received a message via twitter just days ago from a very nervous model named Tahira. She lives in Georgia, but wants to make the move to the Big Apple. Here's what she says:

"Hi Nikia! I was wondering if I could get some modelling advice from you. I signed a contract with this boutique agency in NY that my photographer friend recommended. Although my living arrangements for NY turned wacky they were still keeping in constant contact with me. Setting up test shoots near my location and so forth. Now, it's been almost a month and I have not been able to reach them at all. What should I do?"

Uh oh! Looks like your agents have gone rogue. Fairy Model Mother is on the job.

Can you imagine being in this situation? After months of searching for the right agency, you find one that's totally interested in you. And it's even better that a friend you know and trust referred you. Thinking you're on the right track, you even attempt to relocate yourself for work. Everything seems to be going well, then silence. It's the equivalent of hooking up with a guy, spending days hanging out, and then hearing nothing once you leave his presence. You've just been duped.

Don't feel stupid or anything, because you're not the only one this has happened to. There are a few warning signs that you might have ignored when getting involved with this agency. First of all, does the company have a website? What kind of clients do they work with and what models do they represent? Have you communicated to them by phone or email only? Have you visited the agency office? If these agents have been around for years, there should be a paper trail. Follow it.

When I did my own research on let's call it Agency X, I found very little. But I'd actually heard of it, but not very many good things. According to my sources, Agency X isn't the most reputable. It represents a lot of minority models but doesn't get them good paying jobs. Prepared to do some undercover P.I. work, I tried calling the agency contact number and only got a voicemail greeting. Finally after further investigation, I found that a modeling forum listed the agency as defunct as of late last year. Burn!

Now it's time for you to make your move. If all of a sudden your agents are flaking and not returning your phone calls, maybe you should get out. Look at your original contract for the exit clause. Email them immediately to terminate your agreement. If they still owe you money, pursue payment. Let's just hope they didn't take your money and run. You shouldn't have to do business with an agency that isn't going to keep you in the loop. Don't get hustled. Take you talents elsewhere, baby.

I hope that helps, Tahira. Don't let some bad agency waste your time. As always, if you have any modeling questions, I'm your mama!

And Now Tomorrow...

The future's so bright! A few weeks ago, I was invited by my photographer friend Kawai Matthews to be a special industry guest at a class for teens interested in fashion photography. Boy, did I feel honored. When I arrived at the Julia Dean Photo Workshop, eleven girls were sitting around a table listening intently to every word Kawai was saying. Would they be paying as close attention to my advice? The answer, yes.

My intro to the group included a little Q & A session so they could get to know me. The girls asked what designers I've worked for and what are some of the coolest shoots I've done. Then... a quick show-and-tell of my portfolio. I wanted to show them the importance of creating a solid body of work and the difference between commercial and fashion photography.

Next, Kawai gave the ladies a group project and instructed them to create an inspiration board much like the pros do to prepare for a photo shoot. It was cool to see what each team was putting together. They all had their own unique personalities and creative processes. I nicknamed the groups Team Vogue, Team Nylon, Team Seventeen, and Team W.

What I liked about this workshop is that it was super hands-on. Kawai wanted to make sure these future photographers know not just how to take a great picture, but how to use their equipment. She had them set up their own studio complete with lighting and backdrop. These girls were putting in work!

It was finally time for the students to pick up a camera and start shooting. My job was to tell them exactly what I look for in a good photographer. I like photographers that let me know what they want but allow me to express myself too. You eventually fall into a rhythm and... voila. So the students and I practiced this one by one with each having their own time behind the camera. Most of the time the girls wanted fun, carefree poses to match my bright orange bellbottoms.

We created together and we laughed together. It was so perfect. I hope these young photographers were inspired by me as much I'm inspired by them. If this is the future of fashion, then sunny days are definitely in the forecast. Good luck, ladies.

P.S. - Thanks again to Kawai Matthews and the Julia Dean Photo Workshops for the opportunity and the photos. You rock!

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I really like that these darlings combine tribal touches with colorful details. You can wear these with a tank top and jeans for a simply chic look or with a cute sheath dress. Absolutely gorgeous. Since it's the end of the season, the earrings are on super duper sale at just under $8. You'd better grab 'em now!

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Where in the world did July disappear to? No, seriously. I blinked and it was over. Maybe that's because the month was filled with so many memorable experiences that it just flew by. July's Fab 5 is all about discoveries, so let's hop to it.

1. Exploring- My mom and I decided to take a trip to San Francisco a few weeks ago. We saw the city from the top of a tour bus like true out-of-towners. We stopped at the Golden Gate Bridge and walked halfway across. I don't think Mom was up for the entire 3 miles to and fro. I was awesome to experience San Fran like that with family.

2. Eating- So while Mom and I were in SF, I was determined to eat really good food. I had a long list of spots I wanted to dine at, but of course my belly wasn't big enough to take them all in. Part of the tourist experience in San Fran meant standing in line for 2 hours to get food at Mama's on Washington Square. Yeah, I can't believe we did it. I ordered the Swedish French Toast with seasonal berries. After waiting so long to eat, you know I was starving...so of course, I finished my plate. It was well worth the wait.

3. Growing- Earlier in the month I had the pleasure of working on a short film sponsored by Levis and AFI. The premise of the project has to do with sustainibility. We shot in various locations around LA including a rooftop garden in Skid Row, a community garden in Silver Lake, and a chicken coop in a South LA. Working on the film made me realize how much I miss getting dirty and cultivating something that helps me stay alive. We all need to get back to that...the basics.

4. Friending- Sometimes we take the people in our lives for granted. You know that they love you and they'll be there when you need them, but you've got to make the time to really nurture those relationships. My favorite things about July were the moments I got to spend with my friends and making new ones too. The people you surround yourself with may not be the famiyl you're born into, but they are the family you create. Cherish them.

5. Rediscovering- I've used so much of my spare time getting to know me again and getting to know my life as it is. At one point, things were very different and know they've changed. And I'm cool with that. Life is not stagnant. It is a journey that takes you on different roads with turns, sharp corners, and sometimes dead ends. When you feel yourself getting lost in the traffic of everyday, get out of your routine and rediscover yourself.

That's all folks! I'm looking forward to whatever the next month holds. Be good to yourselves.